Seven Rainbow rules to increase Emotional Intelligence

How many of us really understand our own emotions? How many of us really know the difference between thinking and feeling? Sometimes when you ask someone “What are you thinking ? and “What are you feeling?” the answer is just the same. It is vital to make people understand the importance of knowing, understanding and managing their emotions.

A person who has high EQ are the once who are more successful in their personal and professional lives. Emotional Intelligence is something which can be developed over a period of time but many a times people do not focus or give importance to.

The ability to recognize our feelings and those of other people, to manage our emotions and actions, and to skillfully interact with those around us are the people who have high Emotional Quotient. People with strengths in EI maintain emotional balance, even amid difficult situations. They understand unspoken emotions and dynamics among individuals or groups. And they cultivate positive relationships personally and professionally, All that makes an effective leader, team member or parent and spouse for that matter. People who lack EI have hard time at work and in their lives. They find difficulty in achieving their goals, lose their temper easily especially under stress. Leader who lack empathy can’t be an effective or a good leader.

So how to become Emotionally Intelligent? There are 7 rainbow rules, which will help you in becoming Emotionally Intelligent.

Be Empathetic: Being empathetic opens the door for mutual respect and understanding between people with differing opinions and situations. This trait shows emotional strength of a person, it’s like putting yourself in someone else shoes. A person who understand other’s emotions are the one who are exceptionally good at their interpersonal skills in-turn makes a good leader.

Be Assertive: Assertive communication goes a long way in earning respect without coming across as too rude or too polite. Emotionally intelligent person knows exactly how to maintain a balance between being aggressive and being passive. So, communicate without hurting other’s feelings.

Practice self-awareness: Emotionally intelligent people are self-aware. They are aware about their own emotions and how their emotions effects people around them. They can also understand others’ emotions and nonverbal signs and use that information to enhance their communication skills. There are different strategies to be more self-aware few of them are, taking regular feedback, psychometric test, SWOT analysis etc.

Positive Attitude: People with positive attitude are generally optimistic in their nature. Emotionally intelligent people have an awareness of the mood of those around them and guard their attitude accordingly. They know what they need to do to have a good day.

Be an Active listener: In any type of conversation, emotionally intelligent people listen for clarity rather than waiting for their turn to speak. They make sure they understand what is being said before responding. They pay attention to both verbal and nonverbal communication to avoid any conflict or misunderstandings. They believe in giving respect to the speaker by being a good listener.

Be Motivated : Emotionally Intelligent people are self-motivated, they do not look for eeternal motivation to achieve any goals in their lives. Their positive attitude helps to motivate others. They set their goals and are resilient at the time of challenges.

Be Proactive than Reactive: Emotionally intelligent people are always ready to face any difficult situations as they are well prepared in advance. During the time of conflict or stressful situation, they know how to keep calm and they never make any impulsive decisions that can lead to bigger problems. They are very well aware that at the time of conflict the only goal is a resolution, so they make conscious choice to focus on making an alignment between actions and words.



19 Replies to “Seven Rainbow rules to increase Emotional Intelligence”

  1. You know I was in process to write a post on same topic. Loved your 7 rules. Indeed emotional intelligence is one of the most important part of any ones personality and using all these ways helps a lot in maintaining good mental health too.

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  2. That is such an insightful post on emotional intelligence. I just loved the seven rainbow rules that you have shared. If practiced regularly these rules can bring a lot of change in our life.


  3. EQ is one of my favorite areas to discuss. Yes, people are moving towards IQ but they are lacking behind in terms of EQ. They don’t know how to talk to others. They expect empathy, respect towards them but they themselves don’t give importance to these habits when its their turn. And sometimes this badly effect their work and relationship with others. EQ is nothing complicated but it is the must have trait in one’s personality.

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  4. I have pretty much developed all these traits till now and I’m trying my best to instill the same into my kids. Somehow being empathetic depends from person to person.


  5. Seven rainbow rules are absolutely correct which we often ignore and don’t talk much to increase our emotional intelligence. I am glad you explained it so beautifully.


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