Would love to begin my post with inspiring positive quotes that I have come across and has become mantra of my life
“Instead of worrying about what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create.”
“Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.”
“You cannot control the behavior of others, but you can always choose how you respond to it.”(Roy T. Bennett)
I have always believed in the power of subconscious mind. The words we use in our mind often describes our life, our surroundings, our relationships and us. Therefore it is as important to keep an eye on our internal dialogue as on our spoken words. For example if you constantly utter self depreciating language in your internal dialogue, you are actually allowing the power of words to work against you. So our whole life depends upon words. Therefore, speak with mindfulness.
I am sure most of you heard yourself saying things like
This is just impossible.”
“I’m a big failure at…”
“I’ll never be able to figure this out.”
“I’ll try, but…” and many more such negative self-talk. In such case you are sabotaging your life and probability of your success simply by how you speak. Even psychological research has found that your subconscious mind interprets your words literally as your mind and body always follow your words. So if you want your life to be great and want more confidence and opportunities, always speak what you really want to achieve. So be positive and speak positive.
I have read somewhere that our linguistic ability helps us defining our true potential and ability. So, do not restrict yourself by using wrong words. Use power of words to create and not to destroy.
Positive speaking here refers to self-talk as well as speaking to other’s.
Let’s learn some ways to develop positive speaking habits
“Can Do” Attitude
Self appreciation and self love is the key to happiness in todays’ fast moving chaotic world. Nobody has time to wait and listen to anyone, therefore it is important to mould yourself in such a way that you have high self-belief, self-confidence and self-esteem. Instead of expressing yourself in terms of , “I can’t, I don’t, I need, I won’t”, say things like “I can, I love, I choose”. With “can do” attitude you approve to be more confident and willing to do things rather than giving up.
Understand Other’s Perspective
Be more accommodating, empathetic and accepting. Absorb things with a pinch of salt. Avoid being too defensive, as people will have opinions and will judge you at every step in your life. If you keep reacting to every small little thing that is not acceptable to you then life is going to be a real burden. Therefore, instead of taking them seriously, start taking yourself more seriously. Instead of “they are complete idiots, say, they have different perspective. Be respectful to others.
Stick to your words
Do not ever apologize for your opinion. Let’s understand why do people feel sorry after expressing their true feelings? because they worry too much about what other people think, or because they put their feelings above their own needs. But yes, there are many situations where an apology is unnecessary too. It is imperative that we believe in ourself and our opinions and be assertive.
Choose appropriate word
I believe words have energy and power with the ability to help, heal, hinder, hurt, harm, humble and humiliate. If we are mindful of our words, we can create more positive and altruistic world. It is in our hand what we really want. Are we speaking prosperity, good health, and abundance upon yourself and others, or abusing, cursing and thus inviting sadness upon yourself and others?
Labels create a mental boundary in your subconscious mind that limits you. Labelling yourself as lazy, introvert, disorganized and so on, only reinforces an undesired state. Just because you have labelled yourself doesn’t mean you cannot choose to be different. A person can actually do something which looks difficult in the beginning but not impossible. For example I could never finish my work on time, but I have decided to prioritized my task so that I do not loose on time.
If you say you’ll try to do something provides an excuse for not doing it. So don’t try. Do. be committed to what you say and what you believe in. People are scared to take accountability and thus run away from responsibilities. It is important that you own your life and feel the feeling of belongingness, as this will lead to better results in life and in turn makes you and people around you happy and content.
Learn to convert threat into an opportunity
I have heard this when I was doing my personal SWOT analysis (Strength, Weakness, Opportunity and Threat). What is the difference between successful and not so successful people? Successful people never give up. Everyone has a problem, but how to approach them, is what makes a difference. Try and find an opportunity in every problem you face. For example, you got a tough boss, who is a real taskmaster and a workaholic, take it as an opportunity to develop your ability to manage up.
These kinds of positive self-talk and positive attitude and approach towards life will make your life worth living for, Our life mirrors what we speak- positive words leads to positive manifestation and vice versa.
Would like to end this post with a quote
“Your tongue is like a pen, use it wisely to write your destiny”
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