What is Empathy Gap ? Ways to Deal With It #CauseAChatter

The term “empathy” is used to describe a wide range of experiences.Emotion researchers generally define empathy as the ability to sense other people’s emotions, coupled with the ability to imagine what someone else might be thinking or feeling. … “Cognitive empathy,” sometimes called “perspective taking,” refers to our ability to identify and understand other people’s emotions.

Have you ever felt that someone doesn’t have the same feelings toward you as you have toward them or struggled to predict how you will act when you are angry about something, if we’re currently calm or unable to feel the same pain which other person is undergoing when you are at peace and can only think rationally?

Yes, this happens when we misjudge our own emotions or behaviour and this is what Empathy Gap is all about.

Empathy Gap means when you are in certain mental state for example happy or angry, you are unable to understand the perspective or predict the action of someone who is in a different mental state. For example if you are on diet and currently full, the empathy gap will unable you to access how well you will be able to handle the temptation to eat when you are hungry.

Empathy Gap is one of the cognitive bias where a person finds it difficult to understand their mental state which is different from their present mental state or struggle to understand how such states effect people’s decision making.

Therefore I won’t be wrong in saying that empathy gap has serious implications when it comes to interpreting and predicting people’s behavior, including your own, so it’s imperative to understand it so that we know how to deal with it.

Empathy gap can appear in variety of situations

  1. When it comes to misjudging our own emotions and behaviours . Lets understand this with few examples, When a person is calm, they overestimates their ability to stay composed in stressful situation or when a person no longer have feelings for another person they generally underestimate how much their feelings for that person affected their judgment in the past.
  2. When it comes to misjudging the behaviour and emotions of others . Here a person struggle to understand why someone who is nervous about something acted the way that they did, if we don’t share their feelings on the topic or struggle to see that someone doesn’t necessarily have the same feelings toward us as we have toward them.
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5 Positive Parenting Skills – Workshop

This Workshop was designed especially for working Parents but is applicable for all.

Everyone know’s being a parent is not easy but no one told you how it is going to be like. Each parent has their own experience and learning. There have been lot of research which has gone into understanding why the child behave and react the way they do.

Every parent wants to give their best to their kids upbringing process but we need to understand just having good intention is not enough but understanding kids emotions is the key for good parenting.

In our society there is a common belief we like to call the “Big Lie”—the idea that our society and childhood upbringing do not influence who we are today at the deepest level. Most people don’t deny those things have an impact, but they think the effect is minimal and resist believing that their experiences and other people formed their beliefs. However, the reality is that by the time we reach adulthood, all of us have developed a pattern of how we automatically react to life’s challenges. We have also develop belief systems and attitudes that have been shaped by those around us. Each of us have learned different ways of reacting, which is why when faced with challenging situations some people may react by shutting down, others react with anger, other with anxiety, and others with excitement. What determines the different reactions is the different ways the individuals view the challenges, based on their conditioning—their learned response. So there are certain skills every parent should posses in order to have better relationship with their children.

5 Positive Parenting Skills

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