“My unhappiness was the unhappiness of a person who could not say no.” – Dazai Osamu
Many of us has a fear of being judged, rejected or disliked if we share what we really feel. And saying No is one such thing that doesn’t come easily. Probably because we want to please everyone to the point that we feel completely stressed out. Rejection is one of the biggest reasons why people find difficult to say No. They feel if they say No they might disappoint people and might come across as a rude or appear unkind.
I feel one does this as he or she is not sure about herself or himself. It is an indication of low self confidence and self belief. So what one should do?
Remember few things :
Saying No doesn’t mean you are a bad person
Value yourself more than anyone else
How important is it to say “Yes”. How many of you doubted your decision after saying yes for something? And then how many of you thought of different ways to get out of it? I am sure most of you. Think about the kind of stress and resentment you must have gone through. Wouldn’t it be must easier to say no in the first place?
I have gone through a feeling of anguish, stress and resentment not just once but many times and realized its not worth it.
If you are able to answer these pointers, things will become much more easier.Continue reading “Saying Yes When You Want to Say No- Is This Affecting You Mentally? #CauseAChatter #MentalHealth”