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Xtreme Emotions: “Navigating Anger with Skill”

No man can think clearly when his fists are clenched – George Jean

Venting anger may provide temporary relief, but it often carries the risk of regrettable actions and give away moral integrity. Conversely, suppressing anger can be equally risky, as it may foster resentment and potentially contribute to depression or psychosomatic ailments over time. Managing anger is essential for maintaining healthy relationships and personal well-being. Instead of letting anger control your actions and potentially harm others, channeling it into conviction can lead to positive outcomes.

Acknowledge that anger, if left unchecked, can lead to negative consequences. Reacting impulsively in a fit of anger often results in saying or doing things that cause harm and damage relationships. Understanding the harmful effects of uncontrolled anger is the first step toward managing it effectively. While suppressing anger may seem like a temporary solution, it can have long-term detrimental effects on mental and emotional health. Bottling up anger can lead to increased stress, resentment, and even depression over time. Ignoring or burying feelings of anger does not address the underlying issues and can exacerbate negative emotions. Instead of letting anger consume you, harness its energy and transform it into conviction. Shift your focus from reacting impulsively to responding thoughtfully. Use the intensity of your anger to fuel your determination to address the underlying issues and make positive changes.

Base your actions on principles and values rather than succumbing to impulsive reactions driven by anger. Consider what is truly important to you and align your actions with your core beliefs. Acting on principle allows you to maintain integrity and uphold your values, even in challenging situations. Converting anger into conviction provides clarity of purpose and perspective. Rather than being clouded by intense emotions, you can see the situation more objectively and make informed decisions. This clarity empowers you to approach challenges with courage and determination, knowing that your actions are grounded in principle. Use your conviction as a catalyst for positive change. Channel your energy into constructive actions that address the root causes of your anger. Whether it involves setting boundaries, communicating assertively, or advocating for justice, taking purposeful action can lead to meaningful outcomes and resolution.

    By converting anger into conviction and acting on the basis of principle, you can transform challenging situations into opportunities for growth and positive change. This approach allows you to maintain integrity, preserve relationships, and navigate conflicts with clarity, courage, and strength.

    Let’s understand this better with an example:

    Mohit was a passionate advocate for environmental conservation. He dedicated his time and energy to raising awareness about the importance of protecting the planet and preserving natural habitats. However, his efforts were often met with resistance and indifference from others.

    One day, he received news that a proposed development project threatened to destroy a local forest ecosystem. Fueled by anger and frustration, he felt tempted to lash out impulsively, condemning those responsible for the destruction of the environment.

    However, he remembered the advice of his mentor, who always emphasized the importance of channeling anger into constructive action. Instead of succumbing to rage, Mohit paused to reflect on his values and principles.

    With a deep sense of conviction, he resolved to turn his anger into purposeful action. He channeled his energy into organizing a grassroots campaign to raise awareness about the environmental impact of the proposed development. He reached out to community leaders, rallied volunteers, and mobilized support from concerned citizens.

    As the campaign gained momentum, Mohit encountered challenges and setbacks along the way. There were moments of frustration and disappointment, but he remained loyal in his commitment to his cause. Instead of allowing anger to cloud his judgment, he focused on the bigger picture and the positive impact he could make.

    Through his unwavering conviction and principled actions, he inspired others to join his cause. Together, they advocated for the protection of the forest, presenting compelling arguments based on scientific evidence and ethical considerations.

    Ultimately, their efforts paid off. The proposed development project was halted, and the forest was preserved for future generations to enjoy. Mohit’s ability to transform anger into conviction had not only saved a precious ecosystem but also strengthened his resolve to continue fighting for environmental conservation.

    In the end, Mohit learned that anger, when channeled wisely, could be a powerful catalyst for positive change. By acting on the basis of principle and harnessing his conviction, he had turned a challenging situation into an opportunity to make a difference in the world.

    There are different ways to channelize or control your anger, listing down few for you all

    1. Recognize Triggers: Pay attention to the situations, people, or events that trigger your anger. By identifying your triggers, you can anticipate and prepare for potential anger-inducing situations.
    2. Practice Relaxation Techniques: Incorporate relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation into your daily routine. These techniques can help calm your mind and body, reducing the intensity of anger.
    3. Take a Time-Out: When you feel anger rising, step away from the situation and take a break. Excuse yourself from the conversation or activity temporarily to give yourself time to cool down and regain perspective.
    4. Express Yourself Assertively: Instead of resorting to aggressive or passive-aggressive communication, express your feelings assertively and respectfully. Use “I” statements to express how you feel without blaming or accusing others.
    5. Practice Empathy: Try to understand the perspectives and feelings of others, even if you disagree with them. Cultivating empathy can help diffuse anger and promote understanding and compromise in challenging situations.
    6. Use Humor: Inject humor into tense situations to lighten the mood and defuse anger. However, be mindful of using humor in a respectful and appropriate manner, avoiding sarcasm or belittling remarks.
    7. Exercise Regularly: Engage in regular physical activity to release pent-up energy and stress. Exercise has been shown to reduce levels of anger and improve mood by releasing endorphins, the body’s natural mood-boosting chemicals.
    8. Seek Support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional about your feelings of anger. Sharing your thoughts and emotions with others can provide validation and support, as well as offer different perspectives on how to manage anger effectively.
    9. Practice Mindfulness: Cultivate mindfulness by staying present in the moment and observing your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Mindfulness practices such as mindfulness meditation can help increase self-awareness and emotional regulation, reducing the likelihood of reacting impulsively out of anger.
    10. Seek Professional Help if Necessary: If you find that anger is significantly impacting your relationships, work, or overall well-being, consider seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide personalized strategies and support to help you better manage and control your anger.

    Remember, that managing anger is a skill that takes practice and patience, but with time and effort, you can develop healthier ways of coping with anger and cultivating greater emotional resilience.

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    Changing Minds- Human Psyche is Multi-faceted – Campus To Corporate

    And finally, we have reached to the last post of the series “Campus to Cooperate”. I consider this as the most important of all . There are two reasons for it,

    Firstly I chose this theme to help students and freshers who are looking for a job and due to the pandemic finding it difficult to prepare. To deal with this, I came up with some extremely valuable tips which can aid them with tools and strategies to have smooth transition from Campus to Corporate. The topics which I covered were:

    Professional Dressing Skills

    Resume making tips

    Tips on Group Discussion

    Tips on Personal Interview

    Tips on Virtual Interview

    Ways to boost confidence

    Emotional Intelligence

    Secondly after understanding the Insight from Blogchatter ,the top themes which emerged were Mental health, Education and Motivation. As most of the time I talk about developing inner strength which deals with various critical skills and reflecting the same through appearance, I realized this is what my niche is ,which I need to capitalize on and I am certainly going in the right direction.

    This Post has all the three elements in it and that is the reason I consider it as the most important and crucial post of this series.

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    Emotional Intelligence leads to Success – Campus To Corporate

    According to HelpGuide – “Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. Emotional intelligence helps you build stronger relationships, succeed at school and work, and achieve your career and personal goals. It can also help you to connect with your feelings, turn intention into action, and make informed decisions about what matters most to you”.

    I have talked about seven rainbow rules to increase Emotional Intelligence in my earlier post.

    There are four key skills which helps you to increase your EQ – Self Awareness, Self Management, Social Awareness and Relationship Management.

    These skills can be developed but prior that it is important to understand how to deal with emotions. If I say it’s our thoughts which creates emotions, I won’t be wrong.

    Now there are two common beliefs which contradict each other. First -you should always trust emotions and second – is feelings are irrational and cannot be trusted. In reality both these beliefs are wrong.

    People generally ask questions like should emotions be trusted, So if you understand that your thoughts create your emotions, you can learn how to control your thoughts. Emotions are just body reactions to what you are thinking in various situations. They are neither right nor wrongs it is just reacting to your thoughts. Unhappy is an emotion, you can be unhappy because you don’t have something you desire but you are unhappy because of the thought of not having something you desire.

     Your unconscious mind is always working , that’s why sometimes people have no idea why do they feel the way they do. Sometimes people’s emotions get triggered by cues which we get from the environment but most of the times it is our thoughts which triggers our emotions. It is our interpretation of the situation that causes emotional reaction to the situation.

    There is something called as CBT (Cognitive behavioral therapy) which provide us evidence that we have control over our thoughts and that’s when we can actually control our emotions. This is difficult but this skill can be learned. For that you need to recognize the negative emotion, you identify the thought behind it and then you can change the emotion. If you succeed in doing that , you can have better personal and professional relationships, which in turn can accelerate your success.

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