Positive Speaking and Mental Health Goes Hand In Hand #CauseAChatter #MentalHealth

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Would love to begin my post with inspiring positive quotes that I have come across and has become mantra of my life

“Instead of worrying about what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create.”

“Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.”

“You cannot control the behavior of others, but you can always choose how you respond to it.”(Roy T. Bennett)

I have always believed in the power of subconscious mind. The words we use in our mind often describes our life, our surroundings, our relationships and us. Therefore it is as important to keep an eye on our internal dialogue as on our spoken words. For example if you constantly utter self depreciating language in your internal dialogue, you are actually allowing the power of words to work against you. So our whole life depends upon words. Therefore, speak with mindfulness.

I am sure most of you heard yourself saying things like

This is just impossible.”

“I’m a big failure at…”

“I’ll never be able to figure this out.”

“I’ll try, but…” and many more such negative self-talk. In such case you are sabotaging your life and probability of your success simply by how you speak. Even psychological research has found that your subconscious mind interprets your words literally as your mind and body always follow your words. So if you want your life to be great and want more confidence and opportunities, always speak what you really want to achieve. So be positive and speak positive.

I have read somewhere that our linguistic ability helps us defining our true potential and ability. So, do not restrict yourself by using wrong words. Use power of words to create and not to destroy.

Positive speaking here refers to self-talk as well as speaking to other’s.

Let’s learn some ways to develop positive speaking habits

“Can Do” Attitude

Self appreciation and self love is the key to happiness in todays’ fast moving chaotic world. Nobody has time to wait and listen to anyone, therefore it is important to mould yourself in such a way that you have high self-belief, self-confidence and self-esteem. Instead of expressing yourself in terms of , “I can’t, I don’t, I need, I won’t”, say things like “I can, I love, I choose”. With “can do” attitude you approve to be more confident and willing to do things rather than giving up.

Understand Other’s Perspective

Be more accommodating, empathetic and accepting. Absorb things with a pinch of salt. Avoid being too defensive, as people will have opinions and will judge you at every step in your life. If you keep reacting to every small little thing that is not acceptable to you then life is going to be a real burden. Therefore, instead of taking them seriously, start taking yourself more seriously. Instead of “they are complete idiots, say, they have different perspective. Be respectful to others.

Stick to your words

Do not ever apologize for your opinion. Let’s understand why do people feel sorry after expressing their true feelings? because they worry too much about what other people think, or because they put their feelings above their own needs. But yes, there are many situations where an apology is unnecessary too. It is imperative that we believe in ourself and our opinions and be assertive.

Choose appropriate word

I believe words have energy and power with the ability to help, heal, hinder, hurt, harm, humble and humiliate. If we are mindful of our words, we can create more positive and altruistic world. It is in our hand what we really want. Are we speaking prosperity, good health, and abundance upon yourself and others, or abusing, cursing and thus inviting sadness upon yourself and others?

Avoid Labels

Labels create a mental boundary in your subconscious mind that limits you. Labelling yourself as lazy, introvert, disorganized and so on, only reinforces an undesired state. Just because you have labelled yourself doesn’t mean you cannot choose to be different. A person can actually do something which looks difficult in the beginning but not impossible. For example I could never finish my work on time, but I have decided to prioritized my task so that I do not loose on time.

Take Ownership

If you say you’ll try to do something provides an excuse for not doing it. So don’t try. Do. be committed to what you say and what you believe in. People are scared to take accountability and thus run away from responsibilities. It is important that you own your life and feel the feeling of belongingness, as this will lead to better results in life and in turn makes you and people around you happy and content.

Learn to convert threat into an opportunity

I have heard this when I was doing my personal SWOT analysis (Strength, Weakness, Opportunity and Threat). What is the difference between successful and not so successful people? Successful people never give up. Everyone has a problem, but how to approach them, is what makes a difference. Try and find an opportunity in every problem you face. For example, you got a tough boss, who is a real taskmaster and a workaholic, take it as an opportunity to develop your ability to manage up.

These kinds of positive self-talk and positive attitude and approach towards life will make your life worth living for, Our life mirrors what we speak- positive words leads to positive manifestation and vice versa.

Would like to end this post with a quote

“Your tongue is like a pen, use it wisely to write your destiny”

This Post is part of Blogchatter’s #CauseAChatter

A Purpose Driven Life Helps In Mental Peace #MentalHealth #CauseAChatter

What makes a life worth living for? Yes to make a life more meaningful, it has to have “PURPOSE”. In fact purpose guides decisions, influences behavior, shapes goals, offer a sense of direction and adds meaning to our lives and gives us mental peace that each one of us are craving for. A life without a purpose is a life where we don’t live we merely exist. Purpose be it small or big, conscious or unconscious, forms a fundamental of all human actions. The greatness of ones life depends upon what one lives for. If one wants to live well or act sensibly one needs to have purpose. Today people have everything to live with but nothing to live for as they lack purpose in life.

In relation to purpose their are two kinds of people, one who is externally motivated. They move from one contingent purpose to next. For example, while in school and college, they just want to pass. After that they want to get a job, once they get a job, their aim is to earn money and satisfy their needs, but once they enter a phase of life where they have everything and don’t have much expectations from life that’s when they begin to feel the pang of not having lived to a worthwhile purpose and might get into mental health issues. As someone rightly said, life becomes worth living, when their is a cause worth dying for. The second category of people are those who are self motivated, they take ownership of their life. They are few in numbers but are driven by self-embraced purpose. They understand that responsibility with accountability if practice with sustainability leads to credibility. They are responsive to external demands and do not get intimidated by external pressure.

So what category would you like to be in? I am sure the second one. Remember there are two known widespread epidemics, one is boredom and second one is depression. So if you don’t want to get caught in this clutter, try to find out your purpose in life.

Lets discuss purpose of life with respect to different aspects of life:

People who lead a purpose-less life are the ones who complains the most about not having time, are too busy as we say, ‘doing nothing’. And people who have identified their aim, never crib about not having time as they are busy doing what they are meant to be. Therefore if I say time is a function of purpose I won’t be wrong.

Consider life as a raw material, it has to be shaped into something significant through individual action. As the aphorism has it, ” Life is what God gives to us; personality, that is what we make of the life given to us, is what we give back to God”. Here individual action is, strength of character or will without which no good intention can be put to work and realized. How to we distinguish between good and bad and choose former? Is it not in relation to what we live for?

Discipline definitely remains one of the most important aspect of successful life and will do so forever. From the perspective of purpose-driven life, do’s and don’ts’ is the way to do what needs to be done. Not only does practice allow one to establish a positive action. It helps us train our minds and body and enables us to focus on our goals and to regulate our emotions.

Another aspect of purposeful life is practice what you believe in. Not only does practice allow one to establish a positive action. It helps us train our mind and body and enables us to focus on our goals and to regulate our emotions.

During pandemic things were difficult for most of us. But people with strong mindset and strong willed sailed through it as they knew how to create an opportunity and grab it too but people who felt intimidated are the one’s who took it as a treat and waited for the better days to come. If you are living a purposeless life you will feel weak and vulnerable as you will not know where life is taking you, so the more purposive we are the greater the control we have over ourselves and the greater our self control the clearer our sense of purpose. Therefore self mastery and self awareness reinforce each other and sustain purposiveness in life.

This Post is part of Blogchatter’s #CauseAChatter 

 

 

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