This Workshop was designed especially for working Parents but is applicable for all.
Everyone know’s being a parent is not easy but no one told you how it is going to be like. Each parent has their own experience and learning. There have been lot of research which has gone into understanding why the child behave and react the way they do.
Every parent wants to give their best to their kids upbringing process but we need to understand just having good intention is not enough but understanding kids emotions is the key for good parenting.
In our society there is a common belief we like to call the “Big Lie”—the idea that our society and childhood upbringing do not influence who we are today at the deepest level. Most people don’t deny those things have an impact, but they think the effect is minimal and resist believing that their experiences and other people formed their beliefs. However, the reality is that by the time we reach adulthood, all of us have developed a pattern of how we automatically react to life’s challenges. We have also develop belief systems and attitudes that have been shaped by those around us. Each of us have learned different ways of reacting, which is why when faced with challenging situations some people may react by shutting down, others react with anger, other with anxiety, and others with excitement. What determines the different reactions is the different ways the individuals view the challenges, based on their conditioning—their learned response. So there are certain skills every parent should posses in order to have better relationship with their children.
5 Positive Parenting Skills
Emotional Intelligence : Parent with high emotional Intelligence will raise a child with high EQ. Seeing things from the other person’s point of view, and the ability to regulate one’s own anxiety is what Emotional Intelligence is all about. A child with high EQ will have high resilience and high persistence, which are the key factors in their overall development. Every child comes with a distinctive temperament, it is not easy to control all of their emotions but we can try to give our children the environment that will best help them to make the most of their potential.
Communication Skills: Good communication with children is about encouraging them to talk to you so that they can tell what they are thinking and feeling. Try and understand their attention span as it differs from age to age. Communication with children helps in creating a strong bond between a parent and a child. Daily interaction with them builds confidence in sharing their view and opinions too. Whether they are making sense or not, we need to be patient and encourage them to open up.
Listening Skills: Listening skills are definitely a huge part of communication skills but many a times people completely ignore it . More than talking its your listening skills which accelerate the cognitive development of a child. Being able to really listen and respond in a sensitive way to all kinds of things – not just nice things or good news, but also anger, embarrassment, sadness and fear can bring your child closer to you. While listening there are two important things that you should avoid, firstly do not jump into quick conclusions and do not be in a hurry in finishing the conversation, as children are very good with reading body language.
Acceptance : Your child will develop a secure sense of self-identity and positive self-esteem. As a parent, you are a mirror to your child. If your child sees you as accepting and valuing them, then they will be able to accept and value themselves.
Being accepted by you allows your child to feel safe and secure. Your child will fee free to explore his or her world and express himself or herself to you without fear of your disapproval. This will encourage the development of healthy and assertive communication skills in your child. Your child will become more open with you and feel comfortable talking to you about many things. Conversations will be easier. Perspectives will be shared. By being accepting of your child’s strong negative feelings, the intensity of these feelings will decrease.
Motivational skills : Children do better when they feel better. When you are praising a child try to be descriptive instead of generic. The logic behind this is that kids inherently need our attention. By telling them exactly what it is that they did right, we empower them with the knowledge of exactly what to repeat to get our attention again. Focus on the effort rather than outcome, in this way we can avoid raising praise junkies, whose sole intention is to finish the project to get praised by us instead of taking pride in their own effort and what they have accomplished. Focus on encouragement instead of judging them, this helps the children develop a sense of internal evaluation that lets them take responsibility for their action and pride in their achievements.
“To be in your Children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today”– Anonymous