5 Positive Parenting Skills – Workshop

This Workshop was designed especially for working Parents but is applicable for all.

Everyone know’s being a parent is not easy but no one told you how it is going to be like. Each parent has their own experience and learning. There have been lot of research which has gone into understanding why the child behave and react the way they do.

Every parent wants to give their best to their kids upbringing process but we need to understand just having good intention is not enough but understanding kids emotions is the key for good parenting.

In our society there is a common belief we like to call the “Big Lie”—the idea that our society and childhood upbringing do not influence who we are today at the deepest level. Most people don’t deny those things have an impact, but they think the effect is minimal and resist believing that their experiences and other people formed their beliefs. However, the reality is that by the time we reach adulthood, all of us have developed a pattern of how we automatically react to life’s challenges. We have also develop belief systems and attitudes that have been shaped by those around us. Each of us have learned different ways of reacting, which is why when faced with challenging situations some people may react by shutting down, others react with anger, other with anxiety, and others with excitement. What determines the different reactions is the different ways the individuals view the challenges, based on their conditioning—their learned response. So there are certain skills every parent should posses in order to have better relationship with their children.

5 Positive Parenting Skills

Emotional Intelligence : Parent with high emotional Intelligence will raise a child with high EQ. Seeing things from the other person’s point of view, and the ability to regulate one’s own anxiety is what Emotional Intelligence is all about. A child with high EQ will have high resilience and high persistence, which are the key factors in their overall development. Every child comes with a distinctive temperament, it is not easy to control all of their emotions but we can try to give our children the environment that will best help them to make the most of their potential.

Communication Skills: Good communication with children is about encouraging them to talk to you so that they can tell what they are thinking and feeling. Try and understand their attention span as it differs from age to age. Communication with children helps in creating a strong bond between a parent and a child. Daily interaction with them builds confidence in sharing their view and opinions too. Whether they are making sense or not, we need to be patient and encourage them to open up.

Listening Skills: Listening skills are definitely a huge part of communication skills but many a times people completely ignore it . More than talking its your listening skills which accelerate the cognitive development of a child. Being able to really listen and respond in a sensitive way to all kinds of things – not just nice things or good news, but also anger, embarrassment, sadness and fear can bring your child closer to you. While listening there are two important things that you should avoid, firstly do not jump into quick conclusions and do not be in a hurry in finishing the conversation, as children are very good with reading body language.

Acceptance : Your child will develop a secure sense of self-identity and positive self-esteem. As a parent, you are a mirror to your child. If your child sees you as accepting and valuing them, then they will be able to accept and value themselves.

Being accepted by you allows your child to feel safe and secure. Your child will fee free to explore his or her world and express himself or herself to you without fear of your disapproval. This will encourage the development of healthy and assertive communication skills in your child. Your child will become more open with you and feel comfortable talking to you about many things. Conversations will be easier. Perspectives will be shared. By being accepting of your child’s strong negative feelings, the intensity of these feelings will decrease.

Motivational skills : Children do better when they feel better. When you are praising a child try to be descriptive instead of generic. The logic behind this is that kids inherently need our attention. By telling them exactly what it is that they did right, we empower them with the knowledge of exactly what to repeat to get our attention again. Focus on the effort rather than outcome, in this way we can avoid raising praise junkies, whose sole intention is to finish the project to get praised by us instead of taking pride in their own effort and what they have accomplished. Focus on encouragement instead of judging them, this helps the children develop a sense of internal evaluation that lets them take responsibility for their action and pride in their achievements.

“To be in your Children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today”– Anonymous

@SwatiMathur

27 Replies to “5 Positive Parenting Skills – Workshop”

  1. Please ignore my previous comment.
    I meant to say.. those are the 5 pillars of parenting. They look very basic but we often forget them. Parenting is not tough. It has to be thoughtful. If we can put all five into practice then the outcome has to be awesome.

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  2. I never imagined there would be a Parenting Wokshop! Great concept though! Love the 5 pointers shared as one mistake Parents surely, make without realizing it, is that they don’t listen well.

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  3. Parenting is the hardest job ever, but it is something that we have be good at. All these 5 skills are a must have for parents. Having open communication is something that I believe in totally, accepting them aninspiring and motivating kids to be the best version of themselves is important too.

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  4. These are really required but while giving kids all that, we should draw a line where if given extra they may just get spoilt too. Taking care of kids is really a tough job.

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  5. Wow loved the idea of parenting workshop. and indeed you had included great parenting skills that every parent should need to learn. as per my experience, parenting is a journey where we grow as a parent, when our kids grow.

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  6. Agree every parent wants to give their best to their kids. These tips give realistic approach towards positive parenting that will help in shaping kids

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  7. I think parenting is a skill which we learnt by implementing the methods which we evolve for our kids. Extra pampering and extra strictness both are harmful. 5 pointers are helpful to grow the parenting skill more.

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  8. I agree raising children positively is very important. Emotional Intelligence I feel makes a big impact in the same. An emotionally stable person can take better calculated decisions I feel.

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  9. I agree with you, understanding our child’s emotions is an important part of parenting which should not be neglected. Thanks for sharing about these 5 positive parenting skills, will be really helpful for many parents.

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  10. I read about this workshop on your Instagram page and I’m glad you discussed the pointers elaborately here. Parenting workshops to understand our kids better can be very helpful.

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  11. I have never thought of that there is some parenting workshop thing exist . Parenting is very much complicated and fun too . We need to learn the proper way to manage it smoothly.

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  12. Wow! I think we all need to attend such parenting workshops. These help in improving our perspectives and reflect on the way we are raising our kids.

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  13. positive parenting is very important in bringing up confident happy kids. these workshops will definitely help parents. but I didn’t know these kinds of parenting workshops existed.

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  14. There is no right or wrong way of parenting but yes, as parents we too overlook things that are important for the growth of our children. Parenting workshop idea is great and would be quite helpful for both working parents.

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  15. Superb post however , I was wanting to know if you
    could write a litte more on this topic? I’d be very thankful if you could elaborate a little bit further.
    Many thanks!

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