I remember on my fortieth birthday my family organized a special party. Everyone especially my kids and hubby were really excited, they wanted to give me a surprise but me being a one man army when it comes to my house work, nothing can be hidden from me. So that was something which they weren’t really happy about but can they really do anything about it? of course not..hahaaha. Amidst the wishes, something struck me, don’t know what but all I could hear was, ” we are sorry you have reached so far”, I know it was all in my head, It was my imagination but that made me question myself, ‘ Where did my life go? ,’Have I achieved anything worthwhile? I couldn’t believe I am already in my forties.
But to be frank I am a positive sole, who love herself too much to be affected by all these but I know people who do get paranoid and get into their own cocoon. This is probably the midpoint of your life. For the first time you must have noticed grey hair, weight gain, wrinkles, the real sign of ageing. Why forties are stressful? have you ever thought? The major life event occurs during this time, deteriorating health of parents, children leaving home and that’s why emotionally you are completely drained out while taking stock of current situation. After years of striving to make it to the top professionally and personally, your career and life may also reach a plateau. So, it is quite natural to feel boredom or disenchantment to set in. Menopause is another well-known effect during this time which can be extremely depressing. Self-questioning, unexpected anger, lack of motivation, self-doubt, lack of ambition, depression, anxiety, attracted towards unhealthy options are few symptoms during this phase.
But hold on, this can also be a time for healthy changes that lead to a fulfilling middle and older age.
Can we deal with this?
Coping with mid-life crisis definitely takes time and effort, but it can help you find greater satisfaction and pleasure in life.
- Acceptance is the key. Accept that ageing is inevitable and decline is not. With acceptance, you allow yourself to grieve losses and which is absolutely needed and normal too.
- Sharing will bring peace. By sharing your feelings, you can relive fears and frustration that you are going through.
- Introspect what happened, what is happening and what can happen. Make it a habit of spending time thinking about your life. This will give you a better perspective towards life.
- Rediscover you relationship with your partner. This will help you to bond better with them.
- Set new SMART goals for yourself that are exciting and realistic too.
- Try out new things and surprise yourself. Be it sport, hobby or a certification courses which can add value in your life.
- Make a travel itinerary. Visit places which have always fascinated you. This will provide you with some rich experience at the same time can make you feel refreshed.
- Contribute towards society, by working with non-profit organizations, this will give you peace of mind and immense satisfaction. You will feel fulfilled.
- Spend quality time with your loved ones especially your children.
- Maintain healthy lifestyle, by eating healthy food, indulging in fitness regime like, yoga, gym etc.
Look at mid-life as your greatest opportunity. It may help you to takeout time and write down a list of all things that you would like to achieve with the second half of your life. Instead of imagining your life bleak, visualize it as a full of opportunities and possibilities. Allow your mid-life to be a time of creative change. Although it may be painful at first, it can be your greatest opportunity for having the life you want or gaining a sense of peace.
Chris Wildt has rightly said ” I have decided middle age is hard to determine- it depends on how long you live”.
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I somehow feel this word is overhyped! Mid-life crisis is nothing but the daily hustle of settling into a ‘not-so-adventurous’ life anymore. Kids are growing up, work is going just fine, and married life is tagging along. This is the time, when we take a back seat and boredom overcomes. I agree with your tips and these are quite handy to pull you out from this phase.
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Mid-life crisis should be changed to mid-life excitement.. We should feel proud of ourselves of completing the past years successfully. We have created many beautiful memories with our life partner. Looking at out kids should give us a sense of pride that how well we have nurtured them.Its all about perspective. Age is just a number.
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Mid-life crisis is real and is basically a failure to adapt to changing situations. What is needed is a positive outlook with a willingness to adapt.
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It’s true that a midlife crisis is a fact, but it depends on person to person. It needs to understand that the saturation of any responsibility triggers the human being. I really loved the post.
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Yes mid life crisis is common and it impact many women negatively. but as you said, it could be a start of new journey. we can make new smart goals and can have a fresh perspective in life at this stage to deal with this stage positively.
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Thank you for sharing your personal experience and insights on coping with mid-life crisis. Your positive outlook and practical tips are inspiring and can help others navigate this challenging phase. Embracing acceptance, sharing feelings, setting new goals, and nurturing relationships are valuable strategies for finding fulfillment and peace. Keep spreading positivity and empowering others!
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I’m thinking perhaps even if I don’t seem to have any mid life crisis, people around you will surely put you down or make you handle theirs. Sadly, the world needs to learn acceptance and follow the phrase ‘live and let live’.
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Well I believe that if we think we are aged then our mind and body will start saying that and so let our soul remain young so that we mentally stay young at heart. Mid life is a segment which we need to accept with positivity and grace and if we can do that no one can stop us from enjoying a blissful life even after 50 also. Life is beautiful and we need to see how to make it more meaningful and positive.
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I have been hearing a lot about mid-life crisis around me as I am also reaching that point in time where I may encounter this beast. But after a reading your post and watching Vidhya Balan’s latest interview with Ranveer Allahbadia on his show, I am sure it’s possible to turn this phase into a positive one and use it as an opportunity.
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People still take the most frequent and general mentall issues lightly. may it be mid-life crisis or post partum depression. we need to pay attention to changing needs of body and mind as well as accept and ack them
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Short and sweet this article is buddy, I too just entered my forties and I feel I lot happier calmer and focussed, I feel I ama better person now 🙂
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I have just been there and hence each point that you addressed is so relatable to me . Every woman should prepare herself and adress dhe elephant in the room so that there is a healthy conversation around midlife crisis.
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Tips to deal with mid-life crisis are good to turn the tables and put the excitement map on it. One’s perspective shall make the whole difference and you have given many ways to be optimistic in life.
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Mid-life crisis is a turbulent yet transformative period where individuals confront existential questions and strive for personal growth and fulfillment. It’s crucial to understand that this phase can be challenging but also an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.
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