In my previous write up you read about self-image. Today we are going to know about certain strategies which can help you in building positive self -image. Lets get started..
Avoid exaggerations
Correct your internal voice when it exaggerates , especially when it exaggerates the negatives. Try to avoid thinking in extreme terms.
Nip negative thoughts in the bud
Sometimes putting a stop on negative thinking is as easy as that. The next time you start giving yourself an internal browbeating, tell yourself to “stop it” If you saw a person yelling, insult at another person, you would probably tell them to stop. Why do you accept that behaviour from yourself.
Accentuate the positive
Instead of focusing on what you think are your negative qualities, accentuate your strengths and assets.
Accept flaws and being human
Maybe you did get nervous and blow that presentation at work – so what? All people have flaws and make mistakes, accept it and go on with your life.
Don’t bully yourself!
“Should have, could have, would have….”Try not to constantly second guess yourself, criticize yourself for what you should have done better, or expect too much from yourself. Don’t put standard for yourself that you wouldn’t expect from others. Its great to want to do well, but expecting yourself to be perfect and then punishing yourself when you fail is a vicious cycle.
Replace criticism with encouragement
Give constructive criticism instead of being critical. Compliment yourself and those around you on what you have achieved.
Don’t feel guilty about things beyond your control
You are not to blame everytime somethings goes wrong or someone has a problem. Apologizing for things and accepting blame can be a positive quality, if you are in the wrong and if you learn and move on. But you shouldn’t feel responsible for all problems or assume you are to blame whenever someone is upset.
Give yourself a break
You don’t need to be all things to all people or please everyone. Give yourself permission to decide you are doing the best you can. Remind yourself when you are doing things well – don’t wait to hear it from someone else.
Forgive and forget
Try not to hang on to painful memories and bad feelings – this is surefire way to encourage negative thoughts and bad moods. Your past can control you if you don’t control it. If you have hard time forgiving or forgetting, consider talking through your emotions with a good friend or counselor, but try not to dwell. It is important to work through things, but you can’t let the past determine your future.
Positive Affirmation
Your happy thoughts can actually become your reality. I am the best, I love myself, I am worthy, I am proud of myself, I love myself and my body, I am free of worry and regret and few of the positive affirmation which can bring positivity in your lives and keep you going.
Reminding yourself of your positive qualities and practicing your responses to the different situations are the fastest ways to improve and maintain a positive self -image.
@Swati
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Such a positive post with lots of learning. I agree so many times we blame overselves so much when things didn’t happen as we plan. We need to understand that everything is not under our control. Keep trying with positive attitude is thing that matters most in life.
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Agree.. Let’s not try to be superwoman
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Really so many useful positive tips you have shared. Being positive is the only way to keep a tab on anxiety. Forgive and forget is tough but most important.
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If we work on them it really helps
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I am trying to nip my negative thoughts and not over think. I am also staying away from maki assumptions and this is really helpful
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You are right
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This is such a positive post. I believe that blaming ourselves and doubting our ability can never let us be happy. Keeping the right attitude matters a lot.
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Thanks and I agree try to be positive in every situation
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I am so like this but the issue is that no one else can handle it because a lot is expected from a woman in her home.
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That’s where these strategies work… We need to be happy with ourselves first
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Living a happy life is not that tough. Not comparing ourselves with others, accepting the reality, learning the act of forgiveness and surrounding ourselves with positive people can go a long way.
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Constructive criticism plays important role in nurturing self esteem. People nowadays judge or demoralise more instead of encouraging.
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I agree.. No body minds constructive criticism.
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I am trying my best kick out all negative vibes from my mind and from my surroundings.your tips are very helpful..
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Keeping trying.. It does work!
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Very positive thoughts, I totally agree. Sometimes we do lots of expectations from ourselves and sometimes measure undervalued. Forgive and forget is the best and the difficult one to practice.
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Thanks Deepika!
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This is the kind of positive post I would like to read every morning, Simple yet positive approach is what we want in these tough times
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I am glad you liked it
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having positive thoughts in mind is a good thing to do. Replacing criticism and negative people from life is the first step to happiness.
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Can I tell you something? I have pinned your post. Shall take a printout and clip it. Not because we don’t have enough and more of such content out there. It’s because this came straight from your heart. It’s because YOU meant every single word.
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These are lovely pointers that one needs to keep reminding oneself. Usually , we are hard on ourselves and dont realize that accepting our flaws makes us human not lesser.
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Much needed positivity we all need in these times, I loved reading this and saved it too 🙂
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This list of pointers is so well curated, I am surely be going to try some of these. These will specially be helpful in this difficult times when so many people are suffering from anxiety & can’t focus on positives
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